in the distance
When faced with making a big decision I find that asking friends and family for their opinion helps to solidify my assumption on the right thing to do. I listen to their argument, compare it to my own and weight the good and bad of both. Sometimes I see aspects that I have not thought of and sometimes I dismiss their view all together and go with my original feeling. I do this because I realize that while I feel I'm very open minded, I too can get tunnel vision and concentrate on the goal and not see obstacles.
What happens when friends and family aren't qualified to answer these questions? What happens when they aren't aware of some aspects of your decision and can't be asked for their opinion? What happens when you feel a distance standing in the way of the one person you most want to talk to?
I hate that I talk constantly inside my head. I simple do not stop talking to myself...EVER. I over analyze everything done and said. I take personally everything not said. The phrase "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar" holds no merit in my world. I feel the overwhelming collapse of everything pending and I have no idea what to do. I take steps to distract myself so that I won't listen to the nagging bully in my head...Reading is impossible...Web design helps for a short period but leads to a sore butt...Running clears it all out as long as I keep running...Sleeping only leads to anxiety ridden dreams.
Being on the edge of everything being ok or everything falling apart is taking a toll on my body, my mind and my will to care...
What happens when friends and family aren't qualified to answer these questions? What happens when they aren't aware of some aspects of your decision and can't be asked for their opinion? What happens when you feel a distance standing in the way of the one person you most want to talk to?
I hate that I talk constantly inside my head. I simple do not stop talking to myself...EVER. I over analyze everything done and said. I take personally everything not said. The phrase "sometimes a cigar is just a cigar" holds no merit in my world. I feel the overwhelming collapse of everything pending and I have no idea what to do. I take steps to distract myself so that I won't listen to the nagging bully in my head...Reading is impossible...Web design helps for a short period but leads to a sore butt...Running clears it all out as long as I keep running...Sleeping only leads to anxiety ridden dreams.
Being on the edge of everything being ok or everything falling apart is taking a toll on my body, my mind and my will to care...
posted by Nihilistic @1:08 PM
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And this, is why I have a professional staff to help me. My phone book has numbers for shrinks, hypnotists, witch doctors...
Let me know if you need a referral.
I hope that you're okay. My thoughts are with you.
In a very stupid way, I just wrote an entire long post about the person in my head. I can't stop thinking about things, reanalyzing them and reliving things. I hate it, and can't stop it.
I am such an overanalyzer! I feel your pain. It is best to draw into yourself and try to calm down by imagining yourself outside the situation, circumstance...whatever. Then look at it from different angles. This helps me gain peace and direction. You have to get control over the gnawing doubts that plague us all, atleast for a moment to gain enlightenment. Good luck.
Now I feel bad....because I haven't been there! I'll be home tuesday call me!
It sounds as if you're covering all bases by asking for opinions while realizing that ultimately, the decision is yours to make. Sometimes it seems that the heaviest responsibility we bear in life is for ourselves.
A cigar is never just a cigar to me either. Death to all cigars, anyway. :( There is always some deeper truth lurking beneath the surface.
I find that walking along the beach and meditating in the Community Gardens at Ft. Mason are sometimes effective ways to decompress and relieve tension so I CAN make a decision.
Hugging a dog helps, too. :) Take care of yourself.
I know how that feels. I have been the person who always tries to fix or help others and lose sight of when I should stop and walk away. Over the last couple of years things in my life went completely upside down crazy. I was the only person in my household that was working. Too many bills and not enough income to stay afloat. It got to be more than I could handle and I finally had to seek help and thankfully found medication that soothed the anger and anxiety. I hope that you never reach that point and things in your life slow down enough for you to breathe, but if it doesn't never be ashamed to ask for help, cuz it will be there.
What happens when friends and family aren't qualified to answer these questions?
Ask Strangers!
:) Kinda Kidding.
I, too, have a tendency to waddle between over-analyzation & trying to escape while waiting for an answer to make itself apparent(reading)
Questioning everything said & done does lead to answers...so talk away, if even to yourself!
Honey I am a HUGE over analyzer. HUGE. Here for you if you need to talk....(((hugs)))
Okay, I feel a bit more normal now... or at least that I'm part of a select group.
Recently I have been actively trying to NOT think of certain things. That's really hard. To try to distract yourself w/ no help.
I talk to myself too..have arguments, debates and even just smartass comments! But I have learned to let things roll...things said or not said. Otherwise, it would hurt too much.
Overanalyzer, huh?
We don't have this in common...
I tend to just do shit. ;)
Steve~
you already know that i am the same way. except i don't run. maybe i should run? hmmm.
hugs,
sizz
I'm in a funk too...
We can be funky together.
I'm here.
I can be equally high-strung/neurotic. If it gets to a point where you go into depression or acute anxiety, seek professional help. It sounds like you almost might be there now(?) Meds are sometimes an excellent (though maligned) solution that's wise to consider.
Some people say a routine helps, some say mixing it up helps. But whatever works for you, try it until it works no more. Then move on to plan B (professional help).
Been there/done that. Got the t-shirt.
Sometimes when my question can be answered with a yes or no... I try divination aka childhood yes/no/maybe games. I may not be psychic, but at least it entertains me & provides me with an answer to contemplate further.
:)
My solution when all else fails (people) is to go to God first. (That's just me.) But, thank the heavens for therapists! I go to one where he can look from an outsider's point of view. Sometimes you tend to get bias feedback when asking advice from people who love & care about you.
I hope you are well. Enjoy your weekend!
I once had a teacher who told us that sex is the only place where we can escape the constant discussion of our culture. I disagreed, noting that I had an internal monologue that didn't even stop for sex. One of my classmates noted that there are times when she simply feels the joy of being a living animal. In those moments, she was able to escape her own critical voice.
I hope you are able to find a few living animal moments!
I tend to talk to myself about things I am considering, too. It is just a habit, regardless of asking people's opinions about different decisions I am making. Many times, it helps me reconsider things. However, I can also have an ongoing argument with myself on certain subjects that has no resolution, or I may consider things to which I have no answers, too. In those cases, I always wish I had that one piece of information that would have made all the difference.
Ugh. Whatever's going on sounds tough -- good thoughts your way as you sort it all out!
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